Many of us are annoyed by ideal mothers from Instagram (an extremist organization banned in Russia), and this is not surprising: when to deal with themselves, if the family requires constant attention, plus work, plus care of parents? With a girlfriend would have time to meet once a month, not like a manicure to go. How to learn to keep up with everything?

Five years ago, multitasking was considered extremely useful ability. To this day, some employers write in the descriptions of vacancies: the candidate must be able to deal with different tasks in parallel and manage to do everything at once.

However, studies prove that multitasking devastatingly affects the psyche, and also – what is important to know the employer – reduces the efficiency of good specialists. Why?

Passionate ability to switch

It is known that when there are many tabs and windows open on the computer, one of which is going on, in the other, music plays, and the third loads the game, this negatively affects his work. If the computer begins to freeze, it is recommended to close all unnecessary programs so as not to overload the RAM.


from one task to another and holding in memory of the mass of current affairs requires huge energy costs, and this applies not only to technology. We people, just the same, spend a lot of effort on quickly switching from one business to another, keep all the processes in memory, respond to everything and at once. All this energy could be directed to the deeds themselves.

Because of this fuss and tension, performance suffers, because our resource is not infinite. The more strength it goes to maintain “readiness for everything”, the less they go to the implementation of specific tasks.

How to abandon multitasking and release time and effort?

1. Write down things

“Throw everything out of your head!” – sounds tempting, is it not so? On vacation, this is possible, but if there are two works, three children and five dogs, it is better not to throw out, but to write out.

In the morning, select 10 minutes and write in the notebook everything that needs to be done in the near future in general and in a day in particular. Of course, everything is impossible to have time, which means that the records will move from one page to another, but so you will stop spending energy on holding all matters in your memory. Believe me, this is in itself – already a huge saving of energy.

2. Plan

What is carefully planned is realized with a much greater probability. For example, many of us do not like to visit the tax or EIRC, and this task can be postponed for years. Stress accumulates from its non -fulfillment, puts pressure on us and takes away strength.

To close the delayed task, carefully plan everything: write down what you need, how much time it can take, and then imagine how you do it. You can even plan something pleasant after-remuneration in the form of coffee with friends or walking in the park. The more carefully planned the case, the faster and more productive it is realized.

3. Perform one thing at a time

Decided to devote the next two hours to the child? We will have to abandon the rest of. Turn off the TV, tablet, computer, and if possible – the phone too. Then the time spent with the child will be truly high-quality and interesting. Children are very sensitive to the quality of attention that we pay them. If mom is preparing with the game in parallel with the game and looks into the mail with one eye, the child feels a lack of attention, which means that he will demand more and more.

Sometimes enough hours of high -quality time together so that the baby is pleasure and “saturated” with his mother’s attention, instead of the whole day of the “half -om”, half immersed in work.

4. Restore strength

So that communication with the family and work is exclusively in pleasure, this should grab the strength. A person with a deficiency of vital energy wants one thing: so that they are lagging behind and let them recover. Therefore, if you regularly feel fatigue, restoration procedures and pleasure for you is not a luxury, but a necessity. Many women fall into a vicious circle: “I give all the time to the family, so I get tired, but everything is not enough for them – I can’t waste time, otherwise they will completely upset”. But if you do not take care of yourself, then there will be less strength, and “hunger” from the lack of mother’s love will only increase.

In the past, a woman who worked in the field, and then looked after her relatives and the house, laying out food, took the largest piece for herself: if she does not have the strength, the whole family will suffer. In modern families, the most scarce factor was time, and we need a “big piece” of time for ourselves to restore the resource.